Thought My Marriage was OVER

I thought my marriage was over, I really did!

We’ve been together for many years and through those years you grow up you evolve, and some remain the same. But one thing that has not changed for me in my marriage, is my requirement for dating me!

My husband is very aware of my dating love language and he actually knows how to be romantic with planning home dates, but hubby he had been slipping on ensuring we have our dates.

Don’t Lose the Spark

You’ll see that often times with married couples who have been together for over a decade where they don’t tend to their spouse needs as they used to! Some marrieds may have this issue sooner, especially when kids are involved. One thing you have to remember being married, is to be intentional about keeping the spark going, because no matter how much you think that spark can weather any storm without keeping it lit, it can not!!!

Don’t Settle for What Happens to “Everybody Else”

I remember a conversation I had with my husband a few weeks before I put this Paint & Sip night in, he said to me: “that’s what usually happens when people have been together for so long.” He was referring to how people who are together so long things like dates become less! And his response really ticked me off because, he was responding as if I should expect it too and settle for what happens to everyone else who been together for some time. In my mind, if that is the case he might as well settle for what happens to those folks too: divorce, creeping, or built up anger and resentment towards your spouse.

See my thing was, if you know that this is something you have heard often to happen with other marrieds, why would you not step up your game to avoid a possible issue in your marriage. Why not be proactive right? One thing that is for sure, if either person seems to be neglected too long in any area of the relationship that is of importance to them, then resentment will follow and it will leave your marriage vulnerable to who knows what!

Communicate & Give Time

If you are a person like me who have communicated (true adult communication) to your spouse more times than one, what you need and expect of them and you have to keep reminding them, you eventually grow tired of repeating the same thing right? When you communicate your needs, goals, desires to your spouse and they don’t seem to show forth action what are you to think?

Create Romance from Home

Because I wanted to reignite the spark that I felt was dimming in our marriage, I decided to surprise my husband with a low-budget night in! I wanted him to feel special and to remind him of how no matter the season we are in, we can always create a romantic night in!

I went to good ole Pinterest to get some couples night in ideas and came up with doing a Sip & Paint! I purchased the canvas and paint supplies from Five Below, grabbed a bottle of wine from our bar, and all the other items I already had at home in my supply stash.

I set everything up at home between clients and when my husband got home he was so surprised and felt special. We talked, laughed, painted, all while watching a movie and sipping wine right in the comfort of our home and room! The next day, I came home to a nice bubble bath with rose pedals, wine, and dinner was waiting for me when I walked in the door.

Sometimes we can remind our spouses of what we need from them by doing for them what we want from them! But since mine don’t require dates and romance as much as I do, he bout reminded out lol! 😂 He’s on his own now!

Leave a comment of your thoughts on this. Let us know if you plan a paint and sip night in fo r you and your spouse.